中国和英国双语,那是您的见证人吗

(那是作者在澳大火奴鲁鲁(Australia卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎的老铁写的文章,是伊斯兰教的见解和注释,这么些理念影响了天堂世界许三人的婚姻观,笔者翻译出来,与风野趣的对象们享受。如读者信仰或意见不生机勃勃,请勿对症用药.)**

那是你的见证吗? 读经: 艾塞亚书七十九歌1至4、8、9节

Collected pieces from DesiringGod articles on dating &
singleness
,
marriage,
manhood and
womanhood
.
Many things to learn and to be mature on…

撰写背景:圣经列王纪上第11章

1耶和华啊,你是自个儿的神;作者要尊崇你,作者要表扬你的名。因为您以忠信诚进行过神奇的事,成就你古时所定的。

The Trouble with Focusing on Your
Marriage

When we meet together for our memorial meeting it causes us to think of
the glorious time when we will be the bride of Christ. Like a young
virgin marrying her long waited for groom, so it will be with us meeting
Christ at his return, and being with him for eternity. The believers
being likened to a bride on her wedding day is a common metaphor in the
Bible, for example in Revelation 19:7-8:

2你使城变为乱堆,使牢固城市改换为荒场,使外邦人皇城的城不再为城,恒久不再建造。

Marriage is not mainly about prospering economically; it is mainly about
displaying the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church.
Knowing Christ is more important than making a living. Treasuring Christ
is more important than bearing children. Being united to Christ by faith
is a greater source of marital success than perfect sex and
double-income prosperity.

“Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage
of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her
was granted that she should be arrayed in fine, linen, clean and white:
for the fine linen is the righteousness of the saints”

3所以,刚毅的民必荣耀你;强暴之国的城必敬畏你。

If we make secondary things primary, they cease to be secondary and
become idolatrous. They have their place. But they are not first, and
they are not guaranteed. . . . So it is with marriage. It is a momentary
gift. It may last a lifetime, or it may be snatched away on the
honeymoon. Either way, it is short. It may have many bright days, or it
may be covered with clouds. If we make secondary things primary, we will
be embittered at the sorrows we must face. But if we set our face to
make of marriage mainly what God designed it to be, no sorrows and no
calamities can stand in our way. Every one of them will be, not an
obstacle to success, but a way to succeed. The beauty of the
covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church shines brightest
when nothing but Christ can sustain it.

当大家在主日相聚时,大家会想于今教徒作为基督新妇的体面时刻。就如八个年轻童女嫁给她等待已久的新郎官相似,大家在基督复临时要和她汇合,和她恒久同在一同。信众被比喻在新婚那一天的新人,那是圣经里常用的举个例子,举例启迪录19:7-第88中学说:“大家要欢欣兴奋,将荣誉归给他。因为羔羊婚娶的时候到了,新娘也要好希图好了。就蒙恩得穿光明洁白的细麻衣,那细麻衣正是圣徒所行的义”。

4因为当强暴人催逼人的时候,就好像风暴直吹墙壁,你就作贫寒人的保持,作困乏人急难中的有限支撑,作躲风暴的地方,作避严热的清凉。


Now is our time when we are making ourselves ready for the marriage of
the Lamb. A marriage is a well thought out arrangement and every detail
is carefully arranged. When a date is set for a marriage the betrothed
couple feel excited and eagerly anticipate their wedding day. Now as we
prepare for the marriage of the Lamb, we should be eagerly anticipating
that day, and preparing to meet our bridegroom. Figuratively speaking,
we were given white garments at our baptism and we want to keep them
unspotted from the world (James 1:27).

8他曾经吞灭一瞑不视直到永世。主耶和华必擦去各人脸上的泪珠,又除掉普天下他百姓的羞辱,因为那是耶和华说的。

Five Pieces of Advice for Young
Men

现行反革命,是大家希图好温馨应接羔羊的酒宴的时候。婚姻是通过深思,各种细节都细心布置好的。成婚的光景选定的时候,订婚的相恋的人会激动,热烈地渴望成婚的大日子。未来,基督徒在为羔羊的喜酒做计划的时候,也应当急迫地期盼那一天,准备好见教会的新郎官。从象征意义上来讲,大家在受洗的时候穿上了白衣,并期望那衣性格很顽强在艰难困苦或巨大压力面前不屈不感染世俗(雅各书1:27卡塔尔国。

9到那日,人必说:看哪,那是大家的神;大家历来等候他,他必拯救大家。那是天公,大家根本等候她,大家必因她的救恩快乐喜悦。

  1. Find your identity in Christ.

While we wait for our bridegroom to come to the wedding we obviously
want to remain faithful to him. If we have false idols in our hearts we
are committing spiritual adultery. Paul warned the Corinthians about
this in 2 Corinthians chapter 11 verses 2 and 3:

在这里从前的十章经文,艾塞亚直接陈述神将会怎么样审判以色列国的周遭列国。如今,他霍然唱出意气风发首颂赞的诗词,它实际是他的知情者。Isaiah纵然是意味着以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔 尔(英语:State of Qatar)民对神发出颂赞,但它却是从她的
心底发出来的。
唯有当以色列国人确实认知神和他的外孙子耶稣基督,他们技巧够唱出那首杂谈。大家也是平等,唯有当我们认可耶稣基督是大家的救主和主,大家技艺够发自内心地唱出风流倜傥首新歌及颂赞神。

Romans
6:11
;2
Corinthians
5:17

“For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy:for I have espoused you
to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ. But
I fear, lets by any means as the serpent beguiled Eve through his
subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is
in Christ”.

小编是为到神在过去所形成的万事,并以往要行的万事而发出衷心的感恩。我们能够按着个人的经历,发出相符前两节的颂赞:

  1. Have a plan for maturity.

在大家翘首以待新郎来婚宴的时候,明显,我们想要对她保持忠贞。假诺大家心灵有异教偶像,从圣经的角度讲,就犯了属灵的奸淫。Paul在哥林多后书11:2-3里警报了哥林多人那或多或少:“我为你们起的疾首蹙额,原是神那样的视如寇仇。因为本身曾把你们许配二个先生,要把你们犹如贞洁的姑娘,献给基督。作者吓坏你们的心或偏于邪,失去那向基督所存纯一干干净净的心,就像蛇用诡诈诱惑了夏娃同样”。

「主啊,笔者要重新向您注脚,唯独你是本身的神。小编要为到你的顶天踵地,和您为小编所形成的整个颂赞你。主啊,笔者见到你的作为美妙,在自家还未认知你在此之前,你早就为到自己的生命定下了救恩的陈设,并且在历史中一步步地实现它。主啊,谢谢您的老实不改变。」

A boy used to become a man at 21. Then it was 30. Now it’s 40. Desire
alone will not mature you, though. You need a plan. Imagine the more
mature man you want to be and take specific steps to become him.

The serpent told a lie to Eve which led her to sin, which caused her to
be expelled from the garden in Eden. Eve knew what God had said, but
chose to disobey God as it was more appealing to her. If we believe the
lies of the serpent we too may find that there isn’t a place for us in
the Kingdom. We must have the word of God constantly in our mind and do
only what it requires of us. The serpent which tells us lies may take
many forms, it may be the media, other people, or even our own heart
which tells us things which are not in accordance with the word of God.

那是您的证人吗?在你决志相信她的时候,你恐怕还没有认识到神为你所做的方方面面。但当你回看过去,你却知道看到他的恩手如何一贯辅导你。他的里边二个对象,是要领你越来越紧靠他。

  1. Invest in your friends.

蛇对夏娃撒了谎,引致他作案,以致她被逐出伊甸园。夏娃精通神所说的话,但她选拔违背神,因为蛇的假话更掀起她。如果我们相信蛇的鬼话,大家会开采神国里最后并未有大家的任务。大家必需平昔把神的道存在心里,做那道须要大家做的作业。说假话的蛇或然以很八种格局存在大家的活着中,只怕是传播媒介,是别的人,以致是我们本身的内心都会告诉大家不切合神的语句的东西。

成都百货上千释经家都相信,以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔尔人终必来到这些程度,正是承认神是她们的神,导致他们会亲口唱出艾塞亚书那篇诗文。但大家又怎么呢?大家可不可以几天前就唱出那首随笔呢?大家是还是不是从心田颂赞那位宠爱大家的神,知道他在我们身上成功的满贯,都以为着大家的功利和为了显示他的赏心悦目?

Invest in your friends, but don’t rely on them to do what only Christ
can do. This will put too much pressure on your friendships, and you
will ultimately be disappointed and possibly disillusioned. Friendship
is great (1 Samuel
18:3
),
but we need Christ more than any friend.

Today we read about the downfall of one of the wisest men who have ever
lived, King Solomon. The chapter we read, 1Kings chapter 11 is very sad
because Solomon could have established the Kingdom of Israel as God’s
Kingdom, but instead he did not do what God commanded him.

祷告:

  1. Stop looking for the perfect woman.

今日,大家读到历史上最有聪明的一人的诉讼失败,他是所罗门王。我们读到的那生龙活虎章,列王纪上第11章是很可悲的生机勃勃章,因为Solomon王本能够把以色列(Israel卡塔尔国确立成神的国,但相反,他并未有按神的要求专门的学业。

主耶稣,求您加添笔者的信心,使自个儿能唯独信靠你。

The perfect woman does not exist, so stop looking for her. Hollywood has
lied and taught you wrongly (Proverbs
7:21–23
).
If you hope to be married, better to spend your energy developing your
own godliness and maturity. Become a better husband (1 Corinthians
16:13
),
rather than shopping for a better woman.

The chapter begins with the words“But king Solomon loved many strange
women”. The first mistake Solomon made was taking other wives beside the
daughter of Pharaoh (who was a proselyte to the true worship of Yahweh).
Although it was the custom of the day for a ruler to take many wives, it
is not what God intended for the human race.

IS THIS YOUR TESTIMONY? Bible Reading: Isaiah 25:1-4, 8, 9

Your future wife, perfectly fit or not, will never give you the
wholeness that only comes from Christ. If you are looking for a wife to
make you feel complete, to be fully known, or to give you security, you
will put too much pressure on your marriage and you’ll be disappointed.
On the other hand, if you both know who you are in Christ, you will have
the right foundation for a good marriage.

那风姿洒脱章以“Solomon王在法老的女儿之外,又重视多数外邦女人”开篇。Solomon王犯下的第3个谬误是娶了除法老的姑娘(她改造皈依真正地膜拜耶和华卡塔尔以外的累累外邦女人。就算那时候的历史观是:统治者会娶多少个爱妻,但那并非神为人类的配置。

1 O Lord, You are my God. I will exalt You, I will praise Your name,For
You have done wonderful things; Your counsels of old are faithfulness
and truth.

If you’re walking by faith in Christ, trusting him to lead you, drawing
Spirit-filled brothers and sisters into your thinking, any decision can
be a right decision. Apart from willfully choosing to sin, there’s
freedom to roam in the wide field of God’s will.

The King of Israel was expressly commanded not to take many wives in
Deuteronomy 17:17:

2 For You have made a city a ruin, A fortified city a ruin, A palace of
foreigners to be a city no more; It will never be rebuilt.

  1. Be strong — and gentle.

“Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not
away”.

3 Therefore the strong people will glorify You; The city of the terrible
nations will fear You.

I think we need men who have courage, especially courage in their
convictions (Psalm
27:14
;Matthew
10:22
).
True courage comes from security, and that is only truly found in the
truth about Christ (John
10:28
).

申命记17:17里肯定命令以色列国的王无法娶三个老伴:“他也不可为和煦多立妃子,可能他的心偏邪”。

4 For You have been a strength to the poor, A strength to the needy in
his distress, A refuge from the storm, A shade from the heat; For the
blast of the terrible ones is as a storm against the wall.

We need to be strong — strong enough to be gentle (2 Corinthians
10:9
).

God knew that the King would stray from following the word of God if he
chose more than one wife. It may have been acceptable in his culture,
and looked well upon by the world to take lots of wives, but God said
that he was not to do it. That should have been the end of the question.
God said no.

8 He will swallow up death forever, And the Lord God will wipe away
tears from all faces; The rebuke of His people He will take away from
all the earth; For the Lord has spoken.

Stability in the Storm

神知道Solomon王会偏离神的道。假如她娶三个太太,恐怕那在当时的文化里是足以的,世界对她全体大多的爱妻也是称扬的,但神说他不得如此行。那是神的答案。神说不可能。

9 And it will be said in that day: “Behold, this is our God; We have
waited for Him, and He will save us. This is the Lord; We have waited
for Him; We will be glad and rejoice in His salvation.”

When you’re young, it’s very easy to be overwhelmed by the details of
every circumstance immediately in front of you — every opportunity lost,
every breakup, every failure, every sin. As you’ve likely noticed above,
the older you get, the more your union with Christ becomes a discernibly
meaningful and stabilizing reality.

名牌摄影:Solomon王和他重重的老伴

In the previous ten chapters Isaiah has been telling how God was going
to deal with the various nations around Israel. Now he breaks out in a
song which is really a testimony. It is spoken on behalf of Israel but
is also very personal from the heart of Isaiah himself. However Israel
could only sing these verses when it had come to truly recognise
God-what he is-who he is and that his Son is Jesus Christ. So it is with
us. Only when we come to recognise Jesus Christ as our Saviour and Lord
does he put a new song in our hearts, even praise to our God.

Cling to Christ, and as you mature as a man, he will make clear to you
the beauty and relevance of your union with him. He promises, “I will
never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews
13:5
)
— not now, not in your journey of growth as a man, and not when you are
older. “He who calls you is faithful; he will surely [sanctify and
mature you]” (1 Thessalonians
5:24
).

When God made Adam, he said in Genesis 2 verse 18: “It is not good
that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him”. God
recognised that the man needed a suitable partner, but he only made one
wife. God could have made Adam many wives, but the Divine decree was
that he was only to have one wife. Malachi comments on this in Malachi
chapter 2 verse 15: “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue
of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed.
Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously
against the wife of his youth”

These words were spoken out of deep gratitude to God for all he had done
and was going to do. We could put the first two verses out of our own
experience something like this:


神造Adam的时候,创世记2:18这么记载:“耶和华神说,那人独居不佳,作者要为他造三个伴侣协理他”。神知道哥们须要一个相宜的配偶,但他只造了一个太太。神本能够给艾达m造超级多娃他妈,但神的王法是她只好有二个妻妾。Malachi在Malachi书2:15里这么评价:“即使神有灵的馀力能造多少人,他不是单造一位呢。为啥只造一个人呢。乃是他愿人得虔诚的后代。所以当谨守你们的心,何人也不得以诡诈待幼年所娶的妻”。

‘Oh Lord I want to tell you again that you and you alone are my God. I
want to praise you for all you have meant to me and all you have done
for me. I can see now all that you have been doing. You made your plan
for my life long ago and you have been working it out day by day even
when I could not see or tell what you were doing. Thank you for your
faithfulness.’

Rookie
Mistakes
 

This also shows that divorce and re-marriage is wrong in the sight of
God. Jesus also reinforced this idea in Luke 16 verse
18:“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and married than other,
committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from
her husband committeth adultery”.

Is that your testimony today? You may not have understood all that God
was doing but you have come to trust him. As you look back you can see
the way his hand has led. His one purpose has been to lead you closer to
himself.

Five Lessons for Young Christians

那同样标记离异和再婚在神眼里是不当的。耶稣在路加福音16:18里重申了那几个意思:“凡休妻另娶的便是犯奸淫;娶被休之妻的也是犯奸淫”。

Many Bible teachers believe that Israel will yet come to this place of
recognition of God as their God and that they will yet sing this song
from Isaiah. But what about ourselves? Can we make these words our own
today? Can we in a fresh way put our trust in the God who loves us and
wants our good knowing he will only allow what is for our best and for
his glory.

There is room within God’s will for you to choose a state school, or a
private school, or no school. There’s room for you to pursue that godly
girl, to say yes to that godly man, or to remain single. God’s will for
your life is your sanctification (1 Thessalonians
4:3
)
— to enjoy him more fully, to live more holy lives, and to invite more
people into your joy. Once the broader will of God for you is plain, the
pressure lessens significantly in the specifics. Trust in Christ, take a
step, then ask for wisdom as you move forward. He is with you “to the
end of the age” (Matthew
28:20
).

Although it is not recorded that Solomon divorced any of his wives, the
principal is true that God who has created us, created us to only have
one husband or one wife for life, unless our husband or wife dies. This
is mentioned many times in the Bible, for example in Romans chapter 7
verse 3: “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to
another man, she shall be called an adulteress”.

CAN WE SAY IN A NEW WAY TODAY:


即便圣经未有记载Solomon离弃了她其他的爱妻,但圣经原则是适当的。神创制人,终身个中只应该有一个老头子或叁个相恋的人,除非大家的情人或老婆过逝。那在圣经里被一再关乎,举个例子休斯敦书7:3:“所以娃他爹活着,她若归属别人,便叫淫妇”。

I am trusting thee Lord Jesus, trusting only thee.

10 Questions on Dating with Matt
Chandler

We read of the second aspect of Solomon’s departure from God’s
commandment in verses 1 and 2 of 1 Kings 11. The Jews were not to marry
wives from the foreign nations, as we read in Deuteronomy chapter 7
verses 2 to 3:

Q2 Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating? How do you
know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too
quickly toward marriage?

“And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt
smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with
them, nor show mercy unto them: Neither shalt thou make marriages with
them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter
shalt thou take unto thy son”.

I am going to be real cautious about saying there is such a thing as
“too fast.” What I would rather ask is this: What’s driving the speed?
If mere physical attraction or some kind of emotive, frilly,
this-is-the-one weirdness is driving the speed, then, yes. If the
relationship is outpacing knowledge of character, reputation, and
knowledge of godliness, then that is way too quick.

大家从列王纪上11:1-2里看见Solomon离弃神的诫命的第二层意思。犹太人不可能娶外邦女生,正如大家在申命记7:2-3里寓指标:“耶和华你神将他们提交你击杀,那时您要把她们廓清净尽,不可与他们签署,也不足怜恤他们。不可与她们结亲。不可将你的孙女嫁他们的外甥,也不得叫您的幼子娶他们的闺女”。

But if you are in a context in which you have watched the person’s
godliness, you have marveled at their character, you have rejoiced in
what God has done in them and through them, then speed isn’t a big
factor.

When the Israelites returned from Babylon they again forsook the
commandment in marrying foreign wives, and Nehemiah told them about the
example of Solomon in Nehemiah 13:26:“Did not Solomon king of Israel
sin by these things? Yet among many nations was there no king like him,
who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel:
nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin”.

We have a staff person here who met and married her husband in a matter
of months. She had watched him do ministry at The Village. She knew his
reputation. What drove the speed wasn’t a flare-up of emotions — it
wasn’t a fear of loneliness, or desperation, like maybe this is my only
shot. None of that. Rather, there was knowledge of his faithfulness to
God, his desire to serve the Lord, and his seriousness about the things
of God.

以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎公民从巴比伦回归时再度违反了无法娶外邦女生的诫命,尼希米在尼希米记13:26里告诉了他们Solomon的例证:“作者又说,以色列(Israel卡塔尔王Solomon不是在这里样的事上违规吗。在多国中并不曾豆蔻梢头王像他,且蒙他神所爱,神立他作以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔尔全国的王。但是连她也被外邦女人勾引犯罪”。

I hardly knew they were dating before they were engaged.

油画:Solomon王

Q5: Should I Date a Godly Girl I Do Not Find Attractive?

Nehemiah points out to the Jews who had married foreign wives, that even
Solomon was caused to sin by marrying foreigners. It is very sad to read
of such a great man like Solomon, who we read was beloved of his God,
falling so badly for marrying foreign wives. Perhaps Solomon thought he
would teach them the Truth, but instead we read inverse 4 that“his
wives turned away his heart after
 other gods”.

The culture tells us physical/sexual attraction is
first, then character, godliness, and compatibility follow. I think we
get it backwards. I think once character, compatibility, and godliness
are there, those fuel attraction in the way that pleases God, and is
much safer for our souls.

尼希米提出娶了外邦女生的犹太人,以至是Solomon都归因于娶外邦女孩子而犯罪。见到像Solomon那样高大的壹人,被神所爱,却蜕化地那样严重,娶了外邦女孩子,那是不行悲痛的。大概Solomon以为他能够教育他们真理,而反之我们在第1节见到“他的妃子诱惑他的心去随从别神”。

But at the same time, I want to protect the hearts particularly of young
women from godly men teasing them with pursuit. So, pursue them as
friends and hope that it grows into more. Want it to grow into more. And
I am confident that, over time, character and godliness will win the
day.

Solomon was the wisest man who has ever lived, besides the Lord Jesus
Christ, and yet we don’t read that he could teach even one of his
foreign wives about the God whom he worshipped, the God of Israel, but
instead his wives taught him about their foreign gods.


Solomon是史上除了主耶稣基督以外最有灵性的人,然则我们从未见到他教育了别样三个外邦老婆他所敬拜的神,以色列国的神,反之是他的恋人向他牵线了他们国家异教的神。

Isn’t She
Beautiful?

The lesson for us is very clear, if such a man like Solomon made such a
mistake why would we think that we could have a different outcome if we
either marry more than one husband or wife in our lifetime, or marry
someone who is not a baptised believer of the God of Israel?

The more we learn about them, the more their appearance is filled, for
better or for worse, with new and deeper meaning — with their
personality, their convictions, their sense of humor, their faith. The
once-stunning girl may lose most of her charm, and the easily overlooked
girl may become undeniably beautiful. They each look exactly the same as
before, and yet they don’t. You see them, even their physical
appearance, differently now.

给我们的训诫十三分理解:倘若就连像Solomon那样的人都犯了这么的荒唐,我们凭什么感觉只要大家也可能有叁个以上的先生或老婆,可能跟一个未曾受洗信以色列国的神的人成婚,大家的结局就能够分歧啊?

Physical attraction is real, but flexible.

The New Testament also clearly saysthat marriage for believers must be
to other believers. For example: “She is at liberty to be married to
whom 
she will; only in the Lord” 1Corinthians 7:39 Be ye not
unequally yoked together with 
unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with
darkenss? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he
that believeth with an infidel?”  Corinthians 6:14-15

Christians should be cultivating hearts that are more attracted to faith
and character than anything else.

新约相同清楚地提起信众的婚姻必得和另七个信徒结合。举例:“爱妻就可以率性,随便再嫁。只是要嫁这在主里面包车型客车人”(哥林多前书7:39卡塔尔国。


“你们和不相信的原不相称,不要同负风流倜傥轭。义和不义有啥样相交呢。光明和黑暗有如何相符呢。基督和彼列(彼列正是撒但的小名卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎有怎么着相和呢。信主的和不相信主的有何有关呢?”(哥林多后书6:14-15卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎

The Perfect Spouse Will Not Complete
You

Marriage is such an important event that changes our life forever. It is
imperative in our battle against sin and the gods of this world that our
partner in marriage is walking with us towards the Kingdom. Amos
writes:“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos:3

Marriages require us to be sacrificing, honest, and willing to serve.
Your spouse may complement you, but he (or she) will never complete you.
That’s the job of Christ.

婚姻是可怜关键的职业,它世代地改成大家的人命。在大家与罪和那一个世界多神的以夜继日中,我们的婚姻配偶与咱们联合走向神国是必得的。阿摩司写道:“二位若不一致心,岂能同行呢”(阿摩司书3:3卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎。

  1. Character

  2. Chemistry

  3. Compatibility

Although it is important that our wife or husband is a believer, if we
were already married when we came into the Truth weare commanded not to
divorce our wife or husband, but we should do our utmost to convert them
by our way of life. Paul says: “And unto the married I command, yet
not 
I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband” 


1 Corinthians 7:10

Five Pieces of ‘Outdated’ Dating
Advice

即便如此我们的爱妻或老头子是信教者这点十分重视,但万大器晚成在大家信仰真理时就曾经立室了的话,神的诫命是我们不用离开本人的婆姨或郎君,而是应该尽一切的竭力用大家的生存格局让她们改换。Paul说:“至于这早已出嫁的,小编吩咐他们,其实不是小编吩咐,乃是主吩咐,说,内人不白玉盘盂开孩他爸”(哥林多前书7:10卡塔尔。

  1. Put the pressure on God, and not yourself.

And Peter says:“Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own
husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word
be won by the conversation of the wives” 1 Peter 3:1

God not only joins a husband and a wife (Matthew
19:6
),
but he brings them to each other. If you’re mainly looking to yourself
to get married, you’ve put the pressure in the wrong place. Lean on God
while you wait and date.

Peter说:“你们作爱妻的,要据守本人的老头子。那样,若有不相信从道理的相爱的人,他们就算不听道,也得以因太太的品德被感化过来”(Peter前书3:1卡塔 尔(英语:State of Qatar)。

  1. Pursue him or her with an open hand.

This is because divorce is fundamentally wrong. Jesus said that the
marriage between a man and woman is joined together by God in Matthew
chapter 19 verse 6:“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder”.

And yet he holds out open hands before God. “If the Lord wills,” my son
will have a wife, and my servant will find her on this journey (James
4:15
).

那是因为离异从根本上正是错的。耶稣在马太福音19:6里说夫君和女士之间的婚姻是神设定的:“既然如此,夫妻不再是三人,乃是生机勃勃体的了。所以神所合作的,人不可分离”。

In all of our dating, we must be able to humbly pray, “Nevertheless, not
my will, but yours, be done” (Luke
22:42
).
Until you say your vows at the altar, know that God may write a
different wedding story than you would write for yourself. And with all
of his wisdom, power, and love, we have reason to praise him that he
does.

Having said this, it is true that there may be cases, such as with
domestic violence when a couple cannot stay together. God knows our
individual circumstances.

  1. Pray, and pray, and pray.

话虽如此,也的确有一点案例,例如家暴,那么夫妻互相不可能待在联合。神知道大家个人的景观。

God doesn’t want us to take anything for granted in this life, certainly
not our spouse. He wants all the glory in giving you what’s best for you
whenever he gives it to you.

Nevertheless, if we have children it is important that they are brought
up in a 2 parent household with their biological mother and father, if
at all possible. This is what God intended in marriage,that a godly seed
will be produced. We read this in Malachi chapter 2 verses 15 and
16:“That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your
spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
For the LORD the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…”

If we desire a husband or wife, we should love casting our anxiety and
longing on the one who cares for us (1 Peter
5:7
;Philippians
4:6–7
).
Don’t start dating without praying, and don’t stop praying while you’re
waiting.

不管怎么着,就算我们有男女,主要的是尽一切恐怕,让她们在本身的亲生爸妈的家里长大。那是神在婚姻中的目标,为了营造虔诚的后代。大家在Malachi书2:15-16里见到那一点:“即使神有灵的馀力能造两个人,他不是单造壹位吗。为什么只造一个人吗。乃是他愿人得真诚的遺家族。所以当谨守你们的心,哪个人也不能诡诈待幼年所娶的妻。耶和华以色列国的神说,休妻的事,和以强暴待妻的人,都是本人所厌倦的…”。

  1. Date for more than marriage.

We read of the devastatingimpactSolomon’s foreign wives had on him in 1
Kings chapter 11. In verse 9 wereadthat“the LORD was angry with
Solomon,
because his heart was turnedfrom the LORD God of Israel”.In
verse 11 weread that God‘will surely rend the kingdom from thee, and
will give it to thy servant”.

Worship is the end of all Christian dating, because worship is the end
of the Christian life. God did not make you to be married, but to make
much of himself. Marriage is worth having because you getGodin your
lifelong commitment to one another. Marriage is about knowing God,
worshiping God, depending on God, displaying God, being made like God.

我们在列王纪上第11章里阅览Solomon的外邦老婆对他死灭性的影响。在第9节里,我们看来“耶和华向Solomon发怒,因为他的心偏离向他一遍表现的耶和华以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔尔国的神”。第11节里,大家见到神“必定将你的国夺回,赐给您的臣子”。

  1. Look to loved ones for confirmation.

Solomon was deemed unfit to be King over the Kingdom of Israel because
his wives turned his heart to the gods of the nations. Solomon was given
so much by God, but he turned away from the God of Israel. It seems
Solomon repented in his old age when he wrote Ecclesiastes,and we pray
that he will be in the Kingdom.

Solomon被确定不符合营以色列国(The State of Israel卡塔尔国的王,因为她的太太们让她的心向着外邦的神。神赐给了Solomon那样多的事物,但他却转而背离以色列(Israel卡塔 尔(英语:State of Qatar)的神,如同Solomon在他年长写传道书的时候悔改了,我们祈求他会得进神国。

When Paul wrote the 11thchapter ofHebrews he wrote of many examples of
faith displayed in the OldTestament.Hebrews chapter 11 is sometimes
called the “roll call of faith”. ButcuriouslySolomon’s name does not
appear in this chapter.

Paul在写希伯来书第11章时,写下了无数旧约中充满信心的人的例子。那风流倜傥章平日被誉为“信心的宏伟”之章。但很好奇的是,Solomon的名字不在此风姿罗曼蒂克章里。

Let us now go forward to the Kingdom with the words of Hebrews chapter
12 verse 1 in our minds:“Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about
with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and
the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the
race that is set before us”.

几日前,让大家心中记着希伯来书12:1的话踏入神国:“大家既有那繁多的见证人,就如云彩围着大家,就当放下各个的重负,脱去轻便缠累大家的罪,存心忍耐,奔那摆在我们日前的路途”。

We read in Hebrews chapter 11 of men andwomen of faith who gave glory to
God in their lives by their faith. They wereactive in their lives in
doing what God required of them. If we are going to bein the Kingdom, it
is essential we follow their example and live our lives bythe faith of
God.

我们在希伯来书第11章里读到信心的傲然挺立,用他们的信心在生存里归荣耀给神。他们在本身的性命里积南北极做神必要他俩做的政工。要是大家要进到神国,那么效仿他们的理所当然,用对神的信心活出大家的性命就是最主要的。

A runner in a race does not compete with extra weights tied to him. He
wants to maximise his chances of winning by removing anything which
might impede his running to the finishing line. Likewise in our race to
the Kingdom we should discard anything which is impeding us spiritually,
whether it is friends, a boyfriend or girlfriend who are not believers;
television, movies or music which takes our heart away from God; or
sport which introduces us to the idols of the world. Let us remove them
in our race for eternal life.

四个赛跑者不会在身上背负多余的分占的额数的时候去赛跑。他会通过移除一切阻碍他跑到终点线的不二诀窍来让他赢的机缘最大化。相近的,在大家进来神国的赛跑中,大家应当丢掉任何在属灵上拦截大家的事物,不管是朋友,未有信仰的男/女票;照旧让大家的心境远远地离开神的TV,电影,音乐;又恐怕让我们认知世界的偶像的体育运动。让大家把这个事物从大家奔向永生的跑道上移除。

Verse 2 of Hebrews chapter 12 says: ‘Lookingunto Jesus the author
and 
finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him
endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right
hand of the throne of God”.

In our race to the Kingdom we must have our eyes focussed on the Lord
Jesus Christ who has run before us and finished the race. Jesus was able
to fully dedicate his life to God even though it meant a horrible and
painful death on the cross. He was able to stop his mind of thinking of
the shame and pain of the cross by thinking of the joy of the Kingdom.
We also must carry our cross now, if that means we must remain single to
the Kingdom, that is the cross we must carry. The cross we carry now may
be shameful and painful, it may not be what we want to do, but we must
carry our cross towards the Kingdom. We can overcome, as Christ overcame
by setting our minds towards the joy of the Kingdom.

希伯来书12:2说道:“仰望为我们信心百倍创始成终的基督。(或作仰望那将真道创始成终的耶稣卡塔 尔(阿拉伯语:قطر‎他因那摆在前头的喜乐,就轻看欺侮,忍受了十字架的隐患,便坐在神宝座的侧边”。

在我们往神国的征途上,大家亟须盯住看着早就跑到大家前边并完毕比赛日程的主耶稣基督。固然那表示被钉在十字架上骇不过惨恻的寿终正寝,但耶稣依旧把温馨的百余年全国家体育运动委员会身于神。他能够通过观念神国的欢跃而偃旗息鼓思虑被钉十字架所受的奇耻大辱和惨烈。未来,大家也必得背起本人的十字架,假诺那表示大家不得不维持单身直到神国,那么那就是大家必得承当的十字架。我们所背的十字架恐怕是丢人和惨重的,或许不是大家想要的,但我们不得不背着自个儿的十字架步向神国。就好像基督能够得胜同样,我们能够通过让投机的思维集中在神国的美观中而战胜这风姿罗曼蒂克体。

Anything we forsake now for the Kingdom will be worth it when we hear
the words of Jesus: ‘Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou
hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many
things: enter thou into the joy of the Lord” Matthew 25:21

其他大家前几日为神国而抛弃的东西都是值得的,当大家听见耶稣那样的话时:“好,你那又良善又忠心的佣人。你在相当的少的事上有忠心,作者把无数事派你管理。能够进来共享你主人的开心”(马太福音25:21卡塔尔国。

We will be rulers in the Kingdom. Solomon was denied the Kingship of
Israel for marrying foreign wives, but we pray that we will be accounted
faithful and allowed to be kings and priests in the
Kingdom (Revelation 5:10).

前途我们将会在神国中掌权。Solomon因为娶外邦女孩子而被神否认了他在以色列(Israel卡塔尔国的军权,但大家祈求自个儿将会被算为敬虔的人,在神国里作王,作教化皇(启发录5:10卡塔尔国。

Our Lord Jesus Christ gave his whole life in the service to his Father.
Let us now eat the bread and drink the wine to remember this, and to
strive to follow his example, carrying our cross now, but with our eyes
firmly fixed on the glory that shall follow.

主耶稣基督把他的整个生命都捐给了她的父神。未来让大家掰饼吃酒,纪念那事,并全力效仿她的榜样,背负本身的十字架,牢牢地定睛看向随之而来的雅观。